All About Parenting

From talking and reading to infants to making values clear (best done in conversations around the dinner table), parents exert enormous influence over their children's development. They are, however, not the only influences, especially after children enter school. It is especially important that parents give children a good start, but it's also important for parents to recognize that kids come into the world with their own temperaments, and it is the parents' job to provide an interface with the world that eventually prepares a child for complete independence. In a rapidly changing world, parenting seems subject to fads and changing styles, and parenting in some ways has become a competitive sport.

But the needs of child development as delineated by science remain relatively stable. There is such a thing as overparenting, and aiming for perfection in parenting might be a fool's mission. Too much parenting cripples children as they move into adulthood and renders them unable to cope with the merest setbacks. There is also such a thing as too-little parenting, and research establishes that lack of parental engagement often leads to poor behavioral outcomes in children, in part because it encourages the young to be too reliant on peer culture. Ironically, harsh or authoritarian styles of parenting can have the same effect.

Recent posts on Parenting

The Uncomfortable Conversation About Online Safety

An online teen suicide challenge continues, despite the arrest of the originator. The conversations you should have with your children about safety online.

Stop the Hovering...

As your perception of your grown children has changed, their perception of you should change as well.

A Guide to the Fantasy Bond

Many struggles we face in our current interpersonal relationships arise from a core defense formed in childhood known as the “fantasy bond.”

Is It Narcissism or Sociopathy?

By Stephen A. Diamond Ph.D. on July 19, 2017 in Evil Deeds
What is the nexus between narcissistic and antisocial personality?

Does Video Game Addiction Really Exist?

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on July 19, 2017 in Media Spotlight
Despite the political pressure to declare video game addiction a real disorder, the basic science still isn't there. What will this mean for concerned parents and therapists?

How and Why You Compromise Your Integrity

Your most important possession is your integrity. It’s your trustworthiness, word of honor. Yet at some point you’ve certainly violated this most “sacred” part of yourself. Why?

What's So Bad About Bribing Your Child?

Cooperation is too complicated to be shaped by a simple habit, since it's driven by emotions and how connected your child feels to you at the moment.
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Timing Matters in the Effects of Neglect on Development

By Rebecca Compton Ph.D. on July 18, 2017 in Adopting Reason
How much can stable, nurturing homes help children overcome the effects of severe early neglect?

Looking for Social Behavior?

An encounter with a species of beetles that pair bonds, communicates with their offspring through sound, and deals with infanticide threats from other pairs.

Six Simple Strategies to Stop Bullying

Time-consuming bullying prevention strategies are trumped by these six powerful ways trustworthy adults show kids that their safety is a priority and that they are valued.

The Allure of Forbidden Relationships

Why we are drawn to forbidden relationships, and why it isn't helpful for others to try to prevent us from engaging in them.
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The Payoffs of Snooping

The birth of the forceps offers insight into a weird chapter in medical history.

The Tune Up That Every First Year College Student Needs

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on July 16, 2017 in Social Lights
A 21-point checklist for the class of 2021.

Is Genius Inherited?

It is usually assumed that genius is a completely inherited attribute but experimental studies vary. This study shows that strong motivation and inheritance play a critical role.

How to End the Opioid Epidemic

By Michael Bradley Ed.D. on July 15, 2017 in Crazy-Stressed
Parents who place few zero-tolerance demands upon their teens have kids who are shocked to see their laid-back parents suddenly get deadly serious.

How Can You Connect with Your Teen as Summer Ends?

Are you wondering how to support and connect with your teen before they leave for college? Leading with feeling may offer some solutions.

Sex During Late Pregnancy: A Risk of Premature Delivery?

By Michael Castleman M.A. on July 14, 2017 in All About Sex
Does sex during late pregnancy pose a risk of premature delivery? Most studies say no, but a few say yes. What should expectant parents do?

How Technology Lowers Emotional Intelligence in Kids

Five negative consequences caused by tech dependence.

Polyphobia

This blog explores discrimination and prejudice against polyamorous people in loss of social ties, housing, child custody, job loss, and selective enforcement of rules or laws.

The Danger of Secrecy: What Happens to Unanswered Questions?

A child raised in an environment of secrecy receives the unspoken message that the subject of adoption is taboo, and they will continue to have unanswered questions multiply.

Should I Answer Every Text My Child Sends?

It may feel good to be the person your child shares everything with, and yet...

Parenting in the Era of Addictive Electronics

Are your kids obsessed with screen time? Here are steps to curb their addiction.

Why Your ASD Teen Gets Bullied

The ASD Teen, struggles with picking up on nonverbal cues, this is problematic in social situations especially with young people.

Lousy Spelling—Why Americans Can’t Read or Think Well

Two decades after the National Reading Panel and the National Early Literacy Panel left out spelling reading scores have plummeted! Spelling is the missing link to literacy!
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Is Your Mother an Exhibitionist Narcissist?

If you have ever wondered if your mother was an Exhibitionist Narcissist, this article may help you decide.
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Like Mother, Like Daughter?

By S.M. Schmitt on July 13, 2017 in Eat, Write, Love
Why do so many daughters of mothers with anorexia nervosa also develop an eating disorder? Current scientific perspectives are discussed

Wedding Blues

By Kathy McCoy Ph.D. on July 12, 2017 in Complicated Love
The wedding of a loved one can be a joyous occasion or one filled with drama and emotional minefields. But there are ways you can cut the drama and increase the possibility of joy.

Why Kids With Pets Are Better Off

By Hal Herzog Ph.D. on July 12, 2017 in Animals and Us
Even the researchers were surprised by results of a large new study on the impact of pets on child development.
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The Perils of Popularity

Likability is conducive to the establishment of satisfying relationships, personal and professional fulfillment, and good health. But popularity grounded in status can be harmful.

Fathers-and-Sons-in-Law: When Things Go Well

By Geoffrey Greif Ph.D. on July 11, 2017 in Buddy System
What helps sons-in-law to be drawn to fathers-in-law?