All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element of life, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child's earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant's needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Those relationships are not destiny, but they appear to establish patterns of relating to others. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish.

Recent posts on Relationships

How to Leave a Toxic Relationship and Still Love Yourself

"I am leaving you for me. Whether I am incomplete or you are incomplete is irrelevant. Relationships can only be built with two wholes..."

Feeling Lonely? You May Be Damaging Your Health

Loneliness has been linked to inflammation and even higher mortality rates. Find out if you have an unhealthy level of loneliness and what you should do about it.

The Creepy Appeal of the Bad Guy Narrator

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on September 19, 2017 in Creating in Flow
When the bad guy pops into your head and demands a novel, what can you do? That's easy. You write from the point of view of a narcissist.

Attachment Styles

Attachment styles can affect our partner selection, the way in which we relate to our significant other, and the behaviors we display during the course of our relationship.

Why Do We Love the View From High Above?

By Andrea Bartz on September 19, 2017 in The Wandering Mind
The weird psychological reason you'll take an elevator to the 102nd floor.

10 Things I’ve Learned About Love in the Last 10 Years

By John Kim, LMFT on September 19, 2017 in The Angry Therapist
10 Love Lessons From A Therapist

Longing for More

By Andy Tix Ph.D. on September 19, 2017 in The Pursuit of Peace
What do you really want in life? Applying theory and research on the German concept of Sehnsucht may help you to better understand your quest and live well.

Should You Go to Couples Therapy?

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on September 19, 2017 in Friendship 2.0
Lots of people waver on whether they should take the plunge and see a couple's therapist. Might it be time for you and your partner? Here are some clues.

16 Fun Games to Play with Toddlers & Preschoolers in the Car

By Erin Leyba LCSW, Ph.D. on September 19, 2017 in Joyful Parenting
Car rides can be meaningful ways to engage with toddlers and young children. They can help strengthen a playful bond and grow children's vocabulary and skills.

Who’s Cleaning the House?

It’s not just physical labor. It’s about expectations, perceptions of fairness, and various emotions.

My Mother Tries to Control My College Life

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on September 18, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
I need help dealing with my controlling mother.
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The Key to Healthier Relationships

How partners can help one another change their attachment styles and deepen their relationship.

How Can Leaders Find Happiness?

By Peter Bregman on September 18, 2017 in How We Work
Discover the SHARP model for a happier life, an easy way to beat procrastination, and the number-one factor in predicting well-being.
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The Shadow in a Selfie

By Elizabeth Young on September 18, 2017 in Adaptations
Silence was the main means of communication about the deep, sharp tensions that sliced the fabric of family life.

Relationship as Spiritual Practice: Part 4

To consider death and loss helps to keep us awake, for we don’t have forever to show those we love how we feel about them. We don’t have a moment to lose.

What Turns a Man On? For Some, It's Feeling Desired

By Stephen Snyder M.D. on September 18, 2017 in SexualityToday
A man whose deepest need is to feel desired may be analogous to one who gets excited by wearing women’s clothing. Best to just chalk it up to sexual diversity and accept it.

Choice in Consensual Non-Monogamy

How consent, personal responsibility, and mutual reliance enable polyamorous people to construct designer relationships.

Hooked on Disappointment

By Megha Pulianda, M.S., LPC-I on September 17, 2017 in The In-Between
Daring to break an unhealthy relationship cycle takes hard work and courage, but it can lead to a future of genuine love.

Deconstructing the Pumpkin Spice Latte Craze

September is here and that means one thing…Starbucks’ Pumpkin Spice Latte is Back! Have you ever wondered why this seems to be such a big deal to the general populace?

BIG FUN

By Bernard L. De Koven on September 17, 2017 in On Having Fun
There's a certain kind of fun we call "Big Fun." It's something massive, usually, demonstrably fun, alluring, freeing, even.

I Should Never Have Trusted Him (or Her)

If you have been deceived for years, you may have this same reaction. But should you?
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How to Spot Narcissistic Abuse

By Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT on September 17, 2017 in Toxic Relationships
Narcissists don’t really love themselves, but are driven by shame. Their coping mechanisms are abusive and damage relationships and loved ones–hence the term, “narcissistic abuse.”

Cover Story: Clothing Items That Make Women Attractive

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on September 17, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Fair or not, women are often approached based not on who they are, but on what they wear. Research reveals the appeal of heels, and why the color red looks red hot.

52 Ways: Cultural Variations in Offering Food to Show Love

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on September 17, 2017 in Life, Refracted
Cultures vary in attitudes and beliefs about the role of food in nourishing body, mind and soul. As we express love through feeding, we must remain mindful of those differences.
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Self-Critical? Time to Lighten Up on Yourself

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on September 16, 2017 in Fixing Families
Self-criticism can erode your self-esteem, keep you constantly anxious, sap you of any of life's rewards. Time to calm those scolding voices.

14 Questions to Ask About the Quality of Your Relationship

Considering the many factors involved in relationships, it might seem impossible to narrow them down to a reasonable number. New research shows which are the 14 common elements.

Looking for the G-Spot? 6 Things to Know

Is the G-spot real? Does every woman have it? How do I know if I'm touching the right spot?

Maybe You Should Get Married

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on September 15, 2017 in Clear Communication
Before you make a copy of your house key, read this before cohabitating.

Sick of Sycophants

The stories we tell about sycophants.

The New Erotic Frontier: Sex in Nursing Homes

By Michael Castleman M.A. on September 15, 2017 in All About Sex
Nursing homes are slowly moving from a policy of “don’t” to “do not disturb.”