In today’s political scene, it is a bit hard to keep up with who believes what, and who is living their beliefs. “Walking the talk” and “Doing what I do, not what I say” seem to have become trite phrases that are discounted. You don’t have to look far to see that much hypocrisy abounds. What is hypocrisy? According to Dictionary.com, it is “the practice of claiming to have moral standards or beliefs to which one’s own behavior does not conform; pretense."
If you believe something—really truly believe it—how can you act in a manner that is contradictory to that belief system? If you believe animal abuse is wrong, but then you kick your dog, are you not a hypocrite? If you believe that children should be protected, but you don’t stand against a pedophile or a child abuser, are you not a hypocrite? If you say you love God, but don’t show kindness and compassion to His children, created in His image, are you not a hypocrite? It’s not enough to say something is important to you, or that it is right. You have to live it. Otherwise, nothing you say should be believed.
Unfortunately, most of the time when someone acts in a hypocritical way, they also have narcissist tendencies. A narcissist, simply put, is a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves. Most importantly, narcissists are slow to believe they are “wrong” (if they ever do at all), don’t listen well to others’ opinions, and believe their way is the right one—the only way. If you put narcissism and hypocrisy together, you get a marriage made for one another. If you state certain beliefs and hold others accountable to them, but you don’t act in accordance with those beliefs yourself, you always have an out—you can just say the other person is wrong, and you are right—right? You don’t have to defend, you don’t have to bring alignment, you can simply point out another person’s flaws and thereby shut down the conversation entirely.
If you are a hypocrite, you might want to stop reading here. You likely won’t see it in yourself, nor will you want to do anything about it. It’s so much easier to talk a good game and then not follow through. However, if you are someone seeking authenticity and want to bring alignment to your beliefs and your actions, some of these ideas might work for you.