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The Five Best Ways to Ruin an Apology

Here's how to de-code those relationship-busting apologies in love and work.

16-Year Study: Surprising Findings about Marriage and Health

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 27, 2017 in Living Single
In a 16-year study, more than 11,000 people were followed as they married and divorced. Here’s what happened to their health, life satisfaction, and depression.

Hassles Are Part of Being Human, Even for Our Ancestors

Being human, with all its messiness, is worth the hassle

Free Health Insurance Makes Kids Resilient

In the debate over health insurance, we’re forgetting that research proves that children with access to health care out-perform children with none.

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The Best Way to Handle a Narcissist is to Use Some Extra TLC

When you think of people high in narcissism, low self-esteem hardly comes to mind as part of the picture. New research shows that handling them involves some extra TLC.
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We All Talk To Ourselves

By Tim Carey Ph.D. on May 27, 2017 in In Control
Be prepared to be surprised and delighted at what your mind will accomplish for you if you let it do all that it is designed to do.

How to Get the Family You Deserve

Creating the family you deserve and want.

Five Smart Money Moves to Make Before Summer

Why not head into summer on a strong note by crossing a few things off of your list of money to-do list?
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You Are Lucky to Have Found Mindfulness

Why are you lucky to have discovered the practice of mindfulness?

The Self-Care Reality Check

Self-care has become a fancy buzzword, but what does it actually mean?

Marriage Can Heal Old Wounds From the Family

Sometimes, the greatest lessons that we learn in our family of origin have more to do with what we don’t want than what we do.

12 Keys To A Great Self-Relationship, Starting Now

Self-care is where it's at, but it doesn't mean being selfish or overindulgent. Learn to have a great relationship with yourself. It's a long-term project, and you won't regret it.

Born Both: Intersex and Happy

By Ariel Gore on May 24, 2017 in Women and Happiness
"I want parents to know that intersex kids can decide who they are for themselves and have that turn out beautifully."
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My Best Advice for Graduates: 12 Tips for a Happy Life

What advice would you give to a graduate?

Is Happiness a Choice?

Researchers Shawn Achor and Michelle Gielan on choosing happiness.

The Work Humans Are Wired to Do

By Caroline Beaton on May 23, 2017 in The Gen-Y Guide
While humans have evolved beyond just hunting and gathering, we're all still wired to fill basic human needs.

Four Books to Change Your Life This Summer

A list of books that could be a catalyst for positive change and growth in your life this summer.
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You Are Not Your Circumstances

Start treating yourself like you’d treat a good friend and separating who you are from what happens to you with these 4 steps

Stop the Search: An Interview With Gangaji

By Mark Matousek on May 23, 2017 in Ethical Wisdom
Gangaji is one of the most respected spiritual teachers in America today. Her wise words are balm for the soul in our conflicted and dangerous times.

The Best Preparation for Marriage

Great relationships aren’t discovered; they are created.

Take a Walk!

Want to feel—and be—better mentally and physically? Dig out your sneakers and go for a stroll.

Are You Hard On Yourself?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on May 22, 2017 in Your Wise Brain
Inner criticism tears you down. Commit to skillful corrections. Take a big breath and very deliberately name to yourself three strengths or virtues you have and let them sink in.

Measuring Happiness: How Can We Measure It?

Can positive psychology researchers really measure happiness? Here are five ways they try—and some of the surprising and interesting findings that come from measuring happiness.

Millennial Duck Syndrome

By Caroline Beaton on May 20, 2017 in The Gen-Y Guide
When entrepreneurship wasn't as effortless as I first thought, I felt like I'd failed.

Will You Be Less Depressed If You Get Married? Two Studies

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 19, 2017 in Living Single
When single people marry, do they get less depressed? Are married people less depressed than people who are cohabiting or dating or single with no romantic partner?

5 Tools to Heal Your Ability to Love Unconditionally

Before we can experience unconditional love from outside, or give it to our children, we need to give it to ourselves.

Find Out What Really Happens in Couples Therapy

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on May 18, 2017 in The Squeaky Wheel
Until now, the only way to find out what really happens in a couples therapy session is to go to couples therapy with your partner. That is about to change.

Old Friends: Some of the Best Stuff of Life

Long term, close friendships enhance the substance and quality of our lives, and are important in times of celebration and sorrow: Appreciate them, nurture them, cherish them.

Real Love: A Conversation With Sharon Salzberg

By Mark Matousek on May 17, 2017 in Ethical Wisdom
Meditation teacher Sharon Salzberg talks about the real meaning of love, and how to bring sanity—and compassion—to the turbulent landscape of our times.
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The Unexpected Costs of Extraordinary Experiences

By Gus Cooney on May 17, 2017 in Real Talk
How talking about extraordinary experiences can spoil our conversations
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How to Slow Down Time

Do you feel that time seems to be going more quickly as you get older? If yes, there are a few things you can do to slow down time. Most of the suggestions focus on mindfulness.
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How to Deal with Boring or Mundane Tasks

We know that using character strengths can give a boost to well-being and a leg up on stress, so why not use them for dealing with those in-between moments - the mundane or boring.