Essential Reads

Things May Look Better When You Have Company

Bringing a friend along to the movies or a trip to the museum could make you enjoy it more—even if you don’t interact with your friend. Here's why.

She's Such a Kind, Malicious Narcissist

By Steven Berglas Ph.D. on July 19, 2017 in Executive Ego
There's a paradoxical form of narcissism that involves compulsive giving. Essentially it's a way of bribing people into attachment.

Secure Attachment: The Norm in Interethnic Relationships

How accurate are negative stereotypes about individuals who form long-term relationships across ethnic lines? Attachment studies suggest that the stereotypes are false.

Relationship Satisfaction Entails Playing By the Rules

Alternative relationship types come under scientific scrutiny in a new study on monogamous, open, and polyamorous couples. As long as you play fair, it seems that anything goes.

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Stop the Hovering...

As your perception of your grown children has changed, their perception of you should change as well.

"I-Knew-It-All-Along": 3 Steps to Avoid Living in The Past

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on July 20, 2017 in Clear Communication
Does your hindsight 20/20 need a vision test?

What Business Are Therapists (Really) In?

Is your therapist doing therapy?

Addendum to Privilege, Responsibility, and Nonviolence

After posting my recent post, I received a comment that completely surprised me, in which I was challenged about what I thought was the opposite of what I said.

Money and a Room of One’s Own

By Jenni Ogden Ph.D. on July 20, 2017 in Trouble in Mind
The Bank of England has unveiled a ten pound note celebrating Jane Austen. Virginia Woolfe also has some insightful messages, still relevant today, about money and women writers.

A Guide to the Fantasy Bond

Many struggles we face in our current interpersonal relationships arise from a core defense formed in childhood known as the “fantasy bond.”
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Five Tips for Taking Your Online Dating Relationship Offline

What good is online dating if the first date doesn’t work out?

The Psychology of Revenge (and Vengeful People)

By Peg Streep on July 19, 2017 in Tech Support
Is revenge really sweet? And what makes people vengeful? Does playing tit for tat make you feel better? Or not? The science of revenge.

The Truth About How to Develop Robust Resilience

It is one thing to be individually resilient. But if you want to sustain successful business relationships in the heat of change, you need to see resilience as social.

What The Handmaid's Tale Can Teach Us About Coerced Women

By Carol A. Lambert, MSW on July 18, 2017 in Mind Games
Current attention to women's rights begs us to address what's behind closed doors.

What Can We Learn About Race From The Bachelorette?

With the first black bachelorette being cast on this season of The Bachelorette, how has the ABC franchise tackled the issue of race and dating?

Facebook Infidelity: 10 Safeguards Your Marriage Needs Today

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on July 18, 2017 in Clear Communication
Most Americans now consider this cheating. Do you? It's time to fight this marriage cancer. Here's how...

Bridging Relationship Distress

Is it possible to cut each other free from the conflict?

What is the Right Size for a Group Conversation?

Why do we have to decrease the number of people involved in a conversation when we are gossiping about someone else?

Six Simple Strategies to Stop Bullying

Time-consuming bullying prevention strategies are trumped by these six powerful ways trustworthy adults show kids that their safety is a priority and that they are valued.

In Kindness Will I Speak

In due season will I speak, not out of season. In truth will I speak, not in falsehood...

The Allure of Forbidden Relationships

Why we are drawn to forbidden relationships, and why it isn't helpful for others to try to prevent us from engaging in them.

How Pornography May Be Damaging Relationships

People who view pornography are much more likely to experience a romantic relationship break up. We look at research data supporting this expectation and discuss pivotal factors.

The #1 Quality to Look for in a Romantic Partner

Professor and relationship expert shares the #1 quality to look for in a romantic partner and two tools you can use to figure out whether the person you're dating has it or not.
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What Helps People Live a Long and Satisfying Life?

By Lori Russell-Chapin Ph.D. on July 16, 2017 in Brain Waves
Strengthen your face-to-face relationships. It will add years to your life!

The #1 Conversation Topic for a Great First Date

Research reveals that the number one topic of conversation of a successful first date is the woman.

7 Ways to Say “No” if You're Introverted or Shy

Often there’s a fear of rejection or a desire to avoid confrontation.

How "Only Having Eyes" for Your Date Creates Chemistry

Research indicates that when it comes to building chemistry, first date partners are uniquely attracted to others they believe are uniquely attracted to them.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Having Fun Together

Fun is by definition associated with good feelings. While not the only source of good feelings, it is an important means of generating them. Love thrives on positive affect!

The Tune Up That Every First Year College Student Needs

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on July 16, 2017 in Social Lights
A 21-point checklist for the class of 2021.

First Principles of First Impressions

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on July 15, 2017 in How To Do Life
More nuance is required than to smile and master small talk.

Privilege, Responsibility, and Nonviolence

When enhance my capacity to hear the contents of what people from marginalized groups share about their experiences, regardless of how it’s presented, two things happen.

Anxious? Worry a Lot? Here’s How It Can Be Good For You!

Feeling anxious and worried can increase your motivation and action for dealing with problems and decisions. Research shows how.

If Gandhi Was Your Marriage Therapist

Research has found that Gandhi's principles of fairness, peace, and principled protest can also change your love life.

Sex During Late Pregnancy: A Risk of Premature Delivery?

By Michael Castleman M.A. on July 14, 2017 in All About Sex
Does sex during late pregnancy pose a risk of premature delivery? Most studies say no, but a few say yes. What should expectant parents do?