Essential Reads

Why Would Anyone Build Their Own Coffin?

In the remote Tasmanian town of Ulverstone there’s a community group who’ve taken to building their own coffins years before they need them. Why are they doing it?

Make Up or Break Up? 5 Ways Couples Reconcile After a Fight

New research has identified what men and women think are the most effective tactics used by couples to reconcile after a conflict.

How to Know When to Take a Mental Health Day

Taking a day off from work to care for your mental health could be instrumental in helping you feel at your best.

How Do You Measure Your Self-Worth?

Basing your self-worth on the wrong things is like building your house on an unsteady foundation. Pay attention to how you measure your value.

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7 Stories You May Tell Yourself Invariably Arouse Anger

What fables might you tell yourself that increase your vulnerability to anger? Recognizing them and cultivating more realistic narratives is a potent pathway for healthy anger.
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Eight Reasons to Check the Mirror Before Important Meetings

By Tara Well Ph.D. on July 20, 2017 in The Clarity
What do you see when you look in the mirror? Here are eight surprising ways to leverage your mirror to check for success.

You Must Be Strong

How are Syrian refugees coping without mental health services?

The Truth About How to Develop Robust Resilience

It is one thing to be individually resilient. But if you want to sustain successful business relationships in the heat of change, you need to see resilience as social.

Five Tools That Help Women Accept a Mental Health Problem

Wondering what tools help women accept a mental health problem? Women's resilience is manifold.

The #1 Quality to Look for in a Romantic Partner

Professor and relationship expert shares the #1 quality to look for in a romantic partner and two tools you can use to figure out whether the person you're dating has it or not.

7 Ways to Say “No” if You're Introverted or Shy

Often there’s a fear of rejection or a desire to avoid confrontation.

Anxious? Worry a Lot? Here’s How It Can Be Good For You!

Feeling anxious and worried can increase your motivation and action for dealing with problems and decisions. Research shows how.

The Heroism That Grows from Defeat

By Sam Osherson Ph.D. on July 14, 2017 in Listen Up!
Life is challenging: We need to learn how to have a really successful failure.

Rejection and the Job Search

Learning to handle rejection is one of most important skills you can develop in your job search.
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The "Lazy" Edge

Setting goals and striving as hard as you can is great—except when it backfires. A paradoxical story within a story illustrates the challenge and points to a solution.

Option B and Option Buddha—Sheryl Sandberg and Kisa Gotami

A review of Sandberg's Option B, and some lessons from Buddhism about grief and mortality.

Losing a Pregnancy Only to Lose One Again

Recurrent pregnancy loss is an isolating and traumatic experience for many.

Seven Factors Comprising Resilience

We often feel like the vase in the kiln that we are being baked alive, angry at our predicament or angry at who we believe is victimizing us.

“Shots Fired” Cry Havoc’s take on Dallas Shootings of 7/7/16

By Julie K. Hersh on July 10, 2017 in Struck By Living
Two thought-provoking plays in Dallas, Texas address the anger and pain associated with race in the United States.

The Life-Changing Magic of Going Your Own Way

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on July 09, 2017 in Living Single
Guest blogger Ellen Worthing watched all the kayaking couples go in one direction, and she went the other. It did not turn out the way any of them anticipated.

Summer Reading

Breaking waves and beach houses are lovely, but nothing says summer like a day in the sun with a tote full of books.

Celebrate Human Creativity with the Abundance Mentality

By Po Chi Wu Ph.D. on July 07, 2017 in Jacob's Staff
If the complexities and volatility of the world seem bewildering, what can you do for your own health and well-being? Do you have a scarcity mentality? Is change possible?

Turn Off Thinking to Foster Creative Solutions

An overworked brain is like overworked muscles—pretty much useless.

The Five Things Every College Freshman Needs to Hear

Know a student heading to college this fall? These are the key messages they'll need for personal, social, and academic success.

When Mindset Isn’t Enough

By Deborah Grayson Riegel MSW on July 06, 2017 in Speak Easy
Do you sweat, shake, or have stomach pain before a big presentation? Here are five practical strategies to mask the symptoms when having a positive mindset just isn't enough.

Bumps in the Dating Road When Getting Back Out There

Readiness and rejection are two bumps in the dating road. Here's how to navigate your way around them.

Your Personal Independence Day

It's Independence Day! Time to declare your own freedom from (psychological) bondage

Why Kids Should Dress Up as Batman When Doing Homework

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on July 05, 2017 in The Squeaky Wheel
Allowing your child to play dress-up can actually boost their learning and skill acquisition. Here's why.

Three Steps to Elevate Your Perspective

Finding new perspectives is hard to do even in slow times. Today, it takes conscious effort. Here are the steps to take to see new things and gain new insights.

Why You Should Fear Failure

Shame avoidance is a way in which evolution has provided humans with a useful tool to reach desired goals.

How to Mindfully Make Important Life Decisions

Important life decisions can be challenging to make. By tapping into your gut’s wisdom and harnessing your brain’s mindfulness, you can determine the path that is best for you.
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From the Worst in Human Nature to the Best

One of the most amazing things about disasters is the acts of incredible altruism and self-sacrifice they give rise to.
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8 Powerful Steps to Self-Love

Shaming and criticizing yourself lead to inner rebellion and giving up, while self-compassion gives you hope and trust in the process of change. Learn the "how" of self-compassion.

Reclaiming a Murdered Soul

A single supportive relationship can be a source of survival and resilience.