Essential Reads

Would You Agree to Sex with a Total Stranger?

Sex with strangers? Men and women disagree.
Jesse Marczyk

Understanding Sex in Advertising

By Jesse Marczyk Ph.D. on June 26, 2017 in Pop Psych
Sex doesn't sell all types of products equally well, new research shows.

Nobody Does It Better

Humor, which clashes with the intensity of romantic love, can be valuable in romance. Is humor always good in love? Is it useful for seduction? Should we tell jokes during sex?

Being "Good in Bed"

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on June 25, 2017 in Fighting Fear
Many men and women worry about not being "good in bed." The advice I give applies to many other sort of personal encounters: a first date, a job interview, or selling something

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I Am Upset That My 14-Year-Old Is Sexually Active

How to handle your young teen and sexuality.

A Better Understanding of Betrayed Spouses

Do therapists sometimes treat betrayed spouses in unhelpful ways?

Desire for What? Not All Low Desire Is a Sexual Dysfunction

By Marty Klein PhD on June 27, 2017 in Sexual Intelligence
Low sexual desire is a troubling issue. When is it not a sexual dysfunction?

“Girls Rule!”

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 26, 2017 in How To Do Life
What your boy is seeing about his sex

Do You Mate Like a Cavewoman?

By Donna Barstow on June 26, 2017 in Ink Blots Cartoons
If you've never used Darwin in your dating practices before, you're missing out. Cavewomen had multiple orgasms without even trying.

Involuntary Celibacy

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on June 21, 2017 in Minority Report
There's a growing subculture of men who identify themselves as "incels" (i.e. involuntary celibates) and they are expressing their frustrations online.

My Boss Fondled Me

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on June 20, 2017 in Minority Report
There's not much public space for adults of sexual harassment to feel safe, since adults are supposed to know right from wrong and have the language to say no. But I can tell you..

Parents, Your Millennial Wants to Talk with You about Love

A new report from Harvard indicates that millennials long to talk with their parents about romantic relationships. Here's how to get your intergenerational love dialog started.

Why Does the Religious Right Hate Your Birth Control?

By Marty Klein PhD on June 19, 2017 in Sexual Intelligence
Scripture doesn't mention birth control. So why are many religious people against it—for you?

When Spirituality and Sexuality Clash

Are sexuality and spirituality naturally antagonistic? Recent research suggests that sexual thoughts can weaken spiritual motivations. Can the two be reconciled?

The Demisexual Phenomenon

When sexual attraction comes only after establishing an emotional connection over time...

Blindness Fetishes Explained

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on June 15, 2017 in In Excess
Amaurophilia is a sexual paraphilia where the individual derives sexual pleasure and arousal by a partner who is blind. But what else do we know about this rare sexual behavior?

Performance Anxiety Is Often Transition Anxiety

By Michael Castleman M.A. on June 14, 2017 in All About Sex
Masturbation is easy, but partner sex is more challenging. When young lovers move from the former to the latter, their "performance anxiety" is often transition anxiety.

The Doctor Is In: New Web Series Explores the World of Kink

A new web series provides insight, humor and education about BDSM.

Falling in Love…again

When you are with someone who has your back, whatever the world throws at you can be handled. It’s amazing how much power there is in a loving relationship.

The Good Husband as Failed Lover

Romance can be a form of narcotic for a certain kind of woman, and Emma Bovary is the embodiment of the woman whose life can be shattered by too heavy a dependence on fantasy.

Three Nonverbal Behaviors That May Damage Your Marriage

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on June 12, 2017 in Clear Communication
Are you potentially asking for an extramarital affair without even knowing it?

How Masculinity Is Stifling Men's Sexual Desire

Does it seem like men want sex all the time? It might be feigned. And masculine norms and social pressures could be the culprit.

Child Porn Redux

By Karen Franklin Ph.D. on June 11, 2017 in Witness
An explosion of online pornography is leading to welcome research and debate on its social and psychological effects.

How the Brain Determines Sexuality

It has been known for a long time that early exposure to testosterone has a powerful influence on later sexuality. Now we are beginning to understand how this might come about.

Creating (or Renewing) Intimacy

Intimacy and sex are not the same thing. It's helpful to know the difference and how to achieve either or both.

Surprising Sources of Sexual Satisfaction

A satisfying sex life is more than just frequent intercourse or achieving orgasm; some surprising qualities can enhance our sexual experiences.

Four Fun Ways to Enrich Your Life and Improve Your Health

By Meg Selig on June 08, 2017 in Changepower
Does it seem like everything good is bad for you? Not so! Savor these four pleasures and become healthier and happier as you do so.

Overcoming Sex Addiction: A Self-help Guide

By The Book Brigade on June 08, 2017 in The Author Speaks
Compulsive sexual behavior typically conceals negative feelings about oneself—feelings that are readily treatable.

Trigger Warnings for American Classic Films

By Stanton Peele on June 08, 2017 in Addiction in Society
The film director Ernst Lubitsch, who was the toast of Hollywood for his light, "Lubitsch touch" before World War II, made films that would be banned on campuses today.

I Didn't Want to Betray My Wife Again

By Loren A. Olson M.D. on June 07, 2017 in Finally Out
​I had broken my vows to my wife, and I left her when I realized that if I made those vows again I would only betray her again. My attraction to men was too powerful to contain.

People Watch Porn That Turns Them On

By David J Ley Ph.D. on June 07, 2017 in Women Who Stray
No, the explosion of Internet porn is not changing people's sexual arousals. Instead, it's revealing what their sexual arousal actually is.
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Bi+: The Bisexual Unicorn

Bi+ individuals adopt a variety of identities, including bisexual, pansexual, bi-curious, fluid, multi-sexual, and others.

A Boundary Overstepped

What should a teenage girl should do if her dad has poor boundaries?