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Will Online Shame Prevent You From a Holiday Romance?

By Sue Scheff on November 10, 2017 in Shame Nation
A new survey reports that over half of Americans will search for information online before dating you.

Social Media Societies Pose Risks to Mental Health

By Robert T Muller Ph.D. on November 09, 2017 in Talking About Trauma
Researchers found that online communities can encourage self harm.

Face First: The Most Attractive Expression for a First Date

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 07, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
We size each other up through facial expressions within milliseconds. On a first date, put your best face forward, to ensure a great first date leads to a great relationship

How Sports Can Make You Healthier and Build Character

Go outside and play! How sports and play provide your child with higher motivation, self-confidence, and social skills.

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Beyond Reality: Pretend Play Matters

By Brittany N Thompson on November 18, 2017 in Socioemotional Success
What is pretend play? How does pretend contribute to social skill development? What does all of this mean for everyday contexts and interactions for young children?

How to Spot the Stalker: When Casual Dating is Dangerous

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 18, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
How many dates does it take to form a relationship? Stalkers might say one—or none. The distorted lens of unrequited love can be delusional and dangerous.

Reducing Host-Guest Tensions: How to Be a Good Houseguest

By Shawn M. Burn Ph.D. on November 17, 2017 in Presence of Mind
These houseguest guidelines will increase the odds of a visit unmarked by host-guest tensions.

Five Ways to Remain Calm This Holiday Season

By Azadeh Aalai Ph.D. on November 17, 2017 in The First Impression
Is it possible to get the joy out of the holiday season without the added stress and anxiety?

Lidia Yuknavitch's Love Letter to Fellow Misfits

By Jennifer Haupt on November 16, 2017 in One True Thing
Some of us manage to invent bodies, voices, and lives worth living even though we don’t fit in to the normative socius.

Five Ways to Practice Gratitude

Need a gratitude boost this holiday season? Try these five gratitude practices.

A Farewell to Skepticism

By Joachim I Krueger Ph.D. on November 16, 2017 in One Among Many
Keep theological hypotheses out of science.

Generating Energy to Be Kind

By Mica B. Estrada, Ph.D. on November 16, 2017 in Lead with Kindness
Do you have enough energy to be kind today? Wisdom and science show how personal reflection empowers us to be our best self.

Calling Out Sick From Work? Why You May Want to Unplug Too

By Sue Scheff on November 16, 2017 in Shame Nation
A new survey explains how almost half of employees are caught in lies on social media when they call out sick and some are finding themselves on the unemployment line.
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Making Better Bureaucrats

By Glenn C. Altschuler Ph.D. on November 15, 2017 in This Is America
Often deemed rule-obsessed, callous, petty, power-trippers, bureaucrats strive to satisfy the impossible expectations we have of them. They deserve our respect.

Managing Diabetes in Festive Times

Are you worried about managing your Type 2 diabetes as the holidays approach? Are you anxious about going to social gatherings? Talking about your concerns and planning can help.

A Face in the Crowd: What Type of People Are Most Memorable?

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 13, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Ever wonder why certain people stand out in your mind? What is it about them that makes them so unforgettable? The answer likely has more to do with you.

Mass Public Shootings Are on the Rise

By Scott A. Bonn Ph.D. on November 13, 2017 in Wicked Deeds
There are powerful social forces today that promote mass murder, including financial fears, distrust of government, prejudice and racism, terrorism and constant war.

The Myth of the Self-Made Individual

We should be wary of those who claim to be self-made, who tout themselves as the emblems of accomplishment. These prominent people simply disregard the support they’ve had.

The Paradox of "In Here" and "Out There"

It seems that, at least in the academic realm, the "objective" reality does not have to "prove" anything. It simply is. Accepted as it is—as The Truth.

Mass Shootings, Compassion Fatigue (or Why I Stopped Caring)

By Michael Ungar Ph.D. on November 12, 2017 in Nurturing Resilience
How do we not feel helpless, or worse, blame the victims of mass shootings for the violence that killed them? Emotional numbness grows when we lack control. There are solutions.

The Costs of Vanity

By Richard Smith Ph.D. on November 11, 2017 in Joy and Pain
An unappreciated cost of vanity is that our concern over maintaining a desired social image can lead us to do things which bring us harm.

Tired of Feeling Divided?

By Peter T. Coleman Ph.D. on November 09, 2017 in The Five Percent
If you are tired of the dysfunction shackling our country and interested in promoting reasonable conversations with citizens from the other side, here are a few pointers.

Stern

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on November 09, 2017 in How To Do Life
A short-short story about people’s veneer.

American Bigotry: Now It’s Personal

By Rupert W Nacoste Ph.D. on November 09, 2017 in A Quiet Revolution
Today we are seeing the panic that results when a sense of group superiority is no longer supported by legal social structures.

Insecurity May Enhance Your Ability to Detect Dishonesty

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 09, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Insecurity is related to the ability to detect dishonesty. Your suspicions about your partner´s dishonesty may reveal the honest truth about you.

When an Open Book is Fiction: Detecting Dishonesty on a Date

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 08, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
As much as you want to take the plunge of trust, don´t believe everything you hear. Pacing, presentation, and pauses provide several ways to detect deception.

Phubbing-The #1 Phone Habit to Drop For Better Relationships

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on November 08, 2017 in Feeling It
Here's what happens to your relationships when you ignore others for your phone.

Learn How to Argue and “Take the Hit"

By Hal Shorey Ph.D. on November 06, 2017 in The Freedom to Change
It doesn’t take bravery to run away from an argument or to lash out and counterattack. So, learn to fight with honor, address the real issues, and have conflict be productive.

Is Your Partner Lying to You? How to Tell by Looking

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 06, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Research indicates that contrary to stereotype, liars often do not present themselves as a fidgeting bundle of nerves; they often appear cool as a cucumber. Here's why.

Overcoming the Stressors and Anxiety of the Holiday Season

Blessed is the season, which engages the whole world in a conspiracy of love. -- Hamilton Wright Mabie

Creating a Culture of Yes

By Ruth C. White Ph.D. on November 02, 2017 in Culture in Mind
How do we create a culture of sexual expression in which women feel empowered to say yes and men to hear no?

Monuments and Holidays

By Arthur Dobrin D.S.W. on November 02, 2017 in Am I Right?
It's time to think about what we celebrate and why.

The Curious Case of Rick Ankiel

Baseball pitcher Rick Ankiel developed a case of the pitching yips. The concept of social facilitation helps explain it.

Mindful Aging

By The Book Brigade on November 02, 2017 in The Author Speaks
By the time you’re 50, you know yourself pretty well. You should be putting that knowledge to expansive use, seizing opportunities rather than putting limits on what you should do.