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Online Dating Photo Fraud: The Person Behind the Profile

Online daters with attractive photos are both distrusted and desired.

18 Questions to Ask Before Getting Married

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on May 24, 2017 in Friendship 2.0
The more love, the better. But love can often blind you to differences that need to be worked out before the wedding. Here are some unexpected things to think about.
T. Mairunteregger

Seligman on Tour

Is "prospection" the newest and holiest of grails in psychology? Seligman: "Yes." We: "No."

When Do Friends Matter Most?

By Lydia Denworth on May 18, 2017 in Brain Waves
Having friends is strongly associated with health and longevity, but scientists are only starting to ask when the effects of social relationships emerge and how long they last.

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Moving Online Romance Offline: How Soon is Too Soon?

How long should you wait to transition online courtship into realtime romance? Because compatibility and chemistry are best judged in person, perhaps sooner rather than later.

Behave Yourself: Moral Behavior and Conformity

By Eyal Winter Ph.D. on May 27, 2017 in Feeling Smart
Should we induce our kids to conform?
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One View of Relationships That Needs a Proper Burial

The belief that no one can make us feel anything is an unrealistic belief that can increase isolation and suffering. Personal growth means engaging with how we affect each other.

5 Best Topics for Polite Conversation (and Bonus Tips!)

With a few questions, you can learn something significant about a person's life.

Short on Sleep? Conflict Could be Bad for Your Health

Fighting after a bad night of sleep can hurt your physical health. But how you deal with your emotions during the fight can make a difference.

5 Things to Remember When You're Embarrassed to Ask for Help

Asking for help is tough. But there are some good reasons why you should do it anyway.

The Number One Reason Relationships Fail

By Darcy Sterling Ph.D. on May 24, 2017 in Ask Dr. Darcy
There is one indicator that can predict, with amazing accuracy, the ending of your relationship story. It has to with how you fight.

Digital Silence, and Its Impact on Relationships

Why do we get so upset when we don't get a quick response to our text or email?

The Science Behind Why People Follow the Crowd

By Rob Henderson on May 24, 2017 in After Service
You think you are in control of your own thoughts and behavior. But social psychology tells a different story.

The Work Humans Are Wired to Do

By Caroline Beaton on May 23, 2017 in The Gen-Y Guide
While humans have evolved beyond just hunting and gathering, we're all still wired to fill basic human needs.

Out of the Shadows: Shining Light on the Vampire Community

New research on modern day vampires sheds light on this misunderstood community.
Monica Riordan

Emojis: Tools for Emotions

Communicating affect in text messages. 

Why Are Some States "Tighter" Than Others?

State-level differences in making and enforcing rules can help us understand why illicit drug use is lower—and levels of cautiousness are higher—in the South than in the West.

Empathy in Literature and Film

By Paul Thagard Ph.D. on May 18, 2017 in Hot Thought
Empathy in literature and film works by three modes of empathy: verbal analogies, physiological mimicry, and non-verbal simulation of chains of emotional experiences.

How Important Is Your Dog in Your Family and Social Life?

New data shows just how significant a part of our social and family lives our dogs have become.

The Didge and You

The gurgling sound of the Didgeridoo touches a sensibility that is neither verbal nor emotional. Yet, it invites us to consider what we share.
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The Unexpected Costs of Extraordinary Experiences

By Gus Cooney on May 17, 2017 in Real Talk
How talking about extraordinary experiences can spoil our conversations

What You Should Be Thinking When You Argue With Your Partner

Do you argue with your partner often? A little self-awareness can go a long way.

3 Things You Should Stop Doing Right Now

Sometimes, it's good to conform to social norms. Other times, it's bad for your health and happiness.

Fast Friends or Friends Fast

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on May 14, 2017 in Ambigamy
Clinging to old friends for fear of being stranded alone? There's another way. Get faster at turning new acquaintances into easy cozy friends.

The Stories We Tell About Single People Aren't True

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 13, 2017 in Living Single
In many important ways, single people are thriving. How is that possible, when they don’t have the support of a spouse, and they are stereotyped and stigmatized?

Every Human Interaction, Explained

The secret motive underlying all of our interactions, according to a famous acting coach.

The Subtle Impact of “Pomp and Circumstance”

You can’t attend graduation without hearing Elgar’s “Pomp and Circumstance” trio. Here’s four reasons why this tune remains a significant part of the commencement experience.

More Than Just a Pretty Face: Unmasking Furry Fandom

Recent research debunks common misconception of the furry community as a bunch of sexual "deviants" or misfits.

Teamwork, Community, and the Release of Joel Guerrero

Joel Guerrero was detained by ICE for shoddy reasons, leaving a pregnant wife home alone and a community in stress. Today, Joel is free, due in part to political activism.

Older Adults and Mental Health

While many older Americans are embracing an entirely new attitude toward aging, many are still caught up in the stigma and isolation of our attitudes around mental health.

What do Teenage Relationships Really Look Like?

How can you give teens the space they need to explore the more ambiguous, complicated aspects of their relationships? An open mind and willing heart could make a difference.

Casual Sex On Tinder

What goes into the decision-making process of people who use Tinder to hook up?

Rehearsals and Reversals and More Rehearsals

By Bernard L. De Koven on May 08, 2017 in On Having Fun
When, from the very wings of your psyche, you hear your inner thespian, wording and re-wording what next to say

Voyage to Kazohinia: A Diametric Dystopia

Sándor Szathmári’s satirical novel, Voyage to Kazohinia, is based on an implicit insight into the diametric model of mental illness.