It’s high time we put the most enduring myths about human behavior to bed, and see the mind—and the world—as it is.
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Michael Castleman M.A.
The myth is that men don’t care if women have orgasms. Actually, men care a great deal.
Start solo, use lube, and carefully coach.
Chronic desire differences are long-term couples' number-one cause of sexual distress. To resolve them happily, sex therapists recommend scheduling sex dates in advance.
Part 1: Desire differences are the number one cause of sexual exasperation in long-term couples.
Critics of pornography charge that watching porn destroys men’s erections. But the best research shows that porn has no significant impact.
Many wonder if those involved in sexual bondage, discipline, and sado-masochism are mentally healthy. BDSM players are as sexually and mentally healthy as the general population.
Contrary to popular belief and sports folklore, sex before athletic contests doesn’t hurt performance. It may actually help.
Combining sex and alcohol produces some benefits—and many possibly serious risks
Disabilities never preclude great sex. Despite myths that disabled people are not sexual and not interested in lovemaking, when there's a will, there’s always a way
Throughout the lifespan, premature ejaculation is men’s #1 sex problem. Fortunately it’s usually easy to cure using self-help or professional sex therapy.
Many people have regrets about how they lost their virginity. How to enjoy your first time.
Stress contributes to many sex problems, such as low libido, erectile dysfunction, and problematic porn consumption. Mindfulness helps by reducing sexual distress.
Critics charge that porn corrupts teens. Actually, despite billions of pages of free Internet porn, today’s teens have become more sexually responsible.
Some denounce solo sex as sin or addiction. Actually, it provides many sexual and health benefits.
Porn viewing by social, sexual conservatives is associated with their beliefs about sex becoming more liberal.
Not everyone is robustly healthy. But everyone is sufficiently healthy for sex, in one form or another. When there's a will, there's always a way.
Many recent studies show the Pill can decrease women’s libido or impair their sexual function. How can women weigh the pros and cons of this widely used birth control method?
Some women fake orgasms. Many men wonder if women have even had them.
Most middle-age men don’t have erectile dysfunction, but their erections change, often causing consternation.
In discussions of sexualy transmitted infections—chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, etc.—urinary tract infection is often forgotten.
Many women call porn disgusting and insist that married men should not watch it or use it for self-gratification.
Contraceptive effectiveness can be confusing. It's calculated in a way that’s not intuitive.
The secret of keeping married sex fresh is courtship — for life.
Attention men: Viagra and other drugs are not the only ways to help.
In lovemaking, women are much less likely to have orgasms than men. A recent study adds to growing research explaining why.
Most Americans have engaged in what used to be called unconventional or fringe sex. Its popularity should give us pause about labeling any legal sexual activity as "deviant."
How brief erotic fantasies hours before lovemaking can help ignite later sexual heat.
Today’s sex and swing clubs may be on the sexual fringe, but they’re nothing new.
Three recent studies, including the largest ever conducted, find that two-thirds of users say cannabis enhances sexual satisfaction.
Approaches shown to reduce risk of rape also show promise for stopping workplace sexual harassment
Michael Castleman, M.A., is a San Francisco-based journalist. He has written about sexuality for 36 years.
My background is in journalism, reporting on sex research, which I've done for more than 3 decades. As a result, my blog tends to focus on research results and their implications for enhancing lovemaking.