Love and Sex
Give up control, and love and great sex become possible.
Posted Feb 14, 2012
I'm talking about Love and Sex.
Given their underground nature, these roots run through all of the themes of our lives and relationships, no matter where and how they appear to leave the ground and present themselves to the world.
And they all start from a single seed.
Indeed, so many of us walk into the world—into our relationships, our marriages, and the bedroom—determined to maintain a level of autonomy and self-protection, certain that it is wise to do so. Certain that only a fool would truly surrender.
... as well as great sex.
This ‘if, then' game of the heart insists that I'll give you what you want if and when you give me what I want. The problem is that no one wins. Ever.
Thankfully, there is another option. This Valentines Day, look into the eyes and heart of your partner. Look into their hopes and dreams, and see within them the desires and determination that you also hold dear. See too the very same hurts and fears that you have been dealing with. If you look closely, you'll see that you're really not that different. You're both- like most of us- truly passionate people who are just trying their best to avoid being disappointed again.
You have a choice: to hold onto control and the power struggles they always bring, or to discover an entirely different realm of relationship. One where power is defined as the result of vulnerable communication, deepening trust, and the joyful surrender of any and everything that stands in the way of both.