When we replace resistance with surrender, we lose neither control nor ourselves. Rather, we are given the clarity and tools that enable us to manage change powerfully, regardless of how radical or even traumatic it may be.
There is a trend to place the economic interests and functional concerns of practitioners and insurance companies above the therapeutic needs and rights of the people our industry is ethically bound to serve.
While singers and performers often struggle with how to best relate to the art with which they’re engaged full time, those in the corporate world tend to long for a relationship with creativity they’ve either never had, or gave up in order to get a ‘real job’.
Reality check: you cannot change a situation or circumstance when you’re in the process of resisting it. Just as you can’t catch a beach ball if you’re holding another one in your hands, you can’t embrace something new until you let go of the old, stale, and painful reasons for and arguments about why things are the way they are.
As therapists, coaches, teachers, and counselors, how many of us can honestly answer ‘yes’ to the question: ‘have I done the work I’m asking this person to do?’ And as importantly, if not more: ‘am I myself able to go where he or she wants to go?’
We have a cultural notion that personal worth and value are the result of one’s accomplishments. Thus, the obsession with what we should do when we grow up. Rather than who we are now, and how we would like to express ourselves in the world. As well as what we want to contribute to it.
When we realize that in our power of individual observation lies the same power for collective transformation, we will be able to start solving the big problems that currently, alone in the routines of our minds, seem insurmountable.
For me, the passing of Whitney Houston is certainly an opportunity to remember and say farewell to a true musical icon. Yet it is also—and more importantly—a reminder to cherish and love the people in our lives while they are still alive.
Many of us walk into the world—into our relationships, our marriages, and the bedroom—determined to maintain a level of autonomy and self-protection, convincing ourselves that this is wise to do so. That only a fool would truly surrender. But it never works.
There is simply nothing like the rush of inspiration; the revelation of the big ‘aha' moment. It's what brings us to life. It's what keeps us going.
And it's our biggest downfall.
We're so excited to finally hold these gems in our hands that we forget that a closed fist is still a closed fist, whether or not something wonderful is inside.
No matter your views on abortion, Planned Parenthood is doing very important–and indeed, lifesaving–work. I encourage everyone to remember that the issue of womens' reproductive health–and rights–is not black and white. In the gray areas, there are hundreds, if not thousands, of lives at stake.
Technology isn't inherently bad or problematic. Like most things, it is merely a tool which we are able to use and incorporate according to our needs and desires. Unfortunately, we don't always choose empowering and balanced ways to integrate technology into our lives, the result being that it ends up running, rather than serving us.
We're all good at doing what we do, staying inside of the lines. That's why we do it; that's why we stay there. But that's not where the real fun is, no matter your passion, no matter your dreams and goals.
Cynicism is a mindset, and—like happiness—it's generally not specifically situational. I've worked with many wealthy, famous people riddled with cynicism, as well as foster kids in the Bronx who inspire me with their determination to suck the marrow out of life.