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A new approach to living well
Tim Carey Ph.D.
Understanding people and helping them with the problems they experience will not arise by allocating them to one or more DSM categories.
Most people, most of the time, just navigate themselves through one day after another keeping an endless parade of goals well-tended and satisfied.
An achievement is only an achievement because a goal has been captured.
Once we can embrace our ignorance of each other’s worlds we might become more welcome in them.
You alone hold the key to your own contentment.
We're designed to be in balance.
Understanding and enhancing control is the best chance we’ve got of building a world we’d all like to call home.
Does reminding yourself how inferior you are have an important function for the journey you are on?
It may be that, at the heart of all psychological distress, there are two or more parts insisting that incompatible courses of action are followed by the one body.
Bother is generated by conflict, so solving the conflict will help to unbother your mind.
While psychological distress can manifest in a multitude of ways, the sense of being bothered is a common theme.
It is the nature of controlling people to control.
Let's start a tradition of raising our glasses at social celebrations and toasting "May you live life your way."
Everything we do is connected to our wants.
Control is nothing more mysterious than making things happen the way you want.
Contentment is nothing more than getting what you want, day in and day out.
Controlling people are only problematic when we become conflicted about doing what they want.
We always make decisions relative to other decisions we could have made or different goals we could have achieved.
There is not a stick strong enough nor a carrot juicy enough to deposit a “sense” in someone else’s mind if it does not fit with their views and their life.
Parenting is the greatest trip on earth. I wish you the ride of your life.
Life, in fact, for as long as it exists, is an ongoing process of realizing the experiences or outcomes that we have determined must be established.
The spirit of genuine curiosity is a humble acceptance of our innocence when it comes to the experiences of another.
Be prepared to be surprised and delighted at what your mind will accomplish for you if you let it do all that it is designed to do.
Getting to know all that you want could be the most important learning you ever make.
We’re not living in the past, we’re sorting in the present.
Recognising people as controllers is very helpful for understanding and improving interactions.
We’re designed to correct things when they are different from how we want them to be.
Life is a formula - in fact, it's two.
Nothing is ever good or bad but controlling makes it so.
Nagging people to change a goal that they’re currently nurturing rarely works.
Tim Carey, Ph.D., a clinician and researcher, is a professor and Director of the Centre for Remote Health in Alice Springs, Australia