It’s high time we put the most enduring myths about human behavior to bed, and see the mind—and the world—as it is.
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Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP
Often we pursue rewards that the world can give us like fame, fortune, status, or admiration. Other times we act to satisfy needs that lie solely within us. Learn to choose.
Try these strategies to brighten your September: Finish unfinished business, retrain your temperament muscles, respect your circadian rhythms, and celebrate your achievements.
When you have trouble shifting gears, identify sources of your difficulties. Tools grounded in learning theory can help you confront your maladaptive habits and change them.
Make your travel, especially vacations, more rewarding by appreciating ways in which your own and your companion's style (and temperament) affect experiences and your relationship.
A new study shows that, for teens, the impact of time spent on screens may depend on the use: Doing work? Playing? Seeking entertainment? Learning about the social world?
A tendspotter predicts that consenting human touch is due for a comeback.
Many experiences can derail your intentions and priorities. Here are five tips to reclaim a sense of stability and direction quickly.
Our first non-family love relationship offers opportunities to grow in new ways, putting another's welfare ahead of our own. Changes affecting that friendship challenge us.
When a child or grandchild becomes an adult, do you feel them drifting away? Show them that you recognize their maturity and status to lay the foundation for new love and respect.
Play offers rich personal and social benefits. Embracing whimsy, ambiguity, transformation, and diversity helps—as can several specific rewards.
Intimacy discomfort may reflect insecure attachment, a transactional worldview, new perspectives, anxiety, fear of energy, nervousness about expectations, or reciprocity unease.
Notre-Dame's fire on April 15 drew reactions of horror, disbelief, grief and trauma. Memory, attachment, and a need for meaning all help explain the reactions and support.
When events of daily life overwhelm, consider whether you can delegate, delete, delay, re-prioritize, extend, recharge, replace, find a hidden opportunity, or identify a message.
When we do not grow up with love, we need to learn it. Practicing curiosity, attention, compassion, and kindness makes loving oneself possible—and with it, loving others.
The near-universal use of smart-phones poses threats to our well-being. By using screens as distractions from our own needs and experiences, we risk losing our integrity.
Maintenance, commitments, and nourishment for the soul make claims on your time. Recognize their price-tags and allocate your attention and energy mindfully, consciously.
Contemplating the holiday season with dread or delight? Insights into your own personality and that of your traveling companion may help you expand your capacities to cope.
As fresh as when written in 2002, Adam Gopnik has given us an essay filled with observation, wisdom and curiosity about the role of imagination in a three-year-old's development.
Can you identify your family's style? How do you use time, space, energy? And why do you do it the way you do? Consider three styles of organization and their consequences.
Try considering your relationship as having a reality beyond the individuals who form it. Examine intimacy dynamics, boundaries, strengths, vulnerabilities, and healing.
Mystified by your partner's reactions or behaviors? Consider thinking about them through the lens of temperament. It can bring insight into why they respond as they do.
How well do you understand your own and a loved one's impulses, motives, behavior? Consider the nine dimensions of temperament and ways in which they affect us to provide insight.
When seasonal tasks and events overwhelm your natural spring optimism, take a deep breath and try these seven strategies for preventing or mitigating overwhelm.
Triggers that can lead dedicated lovers to betray a partner abound.
Valentine's Day prods us to question ways in which we express our love and through which others experience it. Here are some thoughts about keeping your love language fresh
I fulfilled a 2017 New Year's Resolution to myself and now reflect on three benefits of having made the commitment. Next year I will rely on knowing I have done it to do it again!
Often a couple faces an important change, perhaps of role, of home, or of responsibilities. They show love when they prepare for the transition and impact together. Here is how.
When change is thrust upon us by internal shifts, the contexts of our lives, or conditions in the larger world, we can show our love by ways we confront challenges together.
Childhood experiences with our caregivers and feelings of guilt, embarrassment, fear, and disappointment can influence the ways in which we receive others' expressions of love.
We can give a gift that costs money, time, or energy, to fulfill an expectation, provide delight, underscore our recognition of who a loved one is, or to recognize a bond.
Roni Beth Tower, PhD, a retired clinical, research and academic psychologist, earned a BA from Barnard (Religion), her PhD from Yale, and did postdoctoral work in epidemiology and public health at Yale Medical School.