Resolution, Not Conflict

The guide to problem-solving.

Susan Heitler Ph.D.

10 Gifts: Wisdom From an Extraordinary Therapist and Healer

Dale Peterson was a masterful energy therapist. In honor of his death, I am sharing some of his powerful techniques and innovations.

The Creation of Hatred

The phenomenon of parental alienation offers clues to understanding the rising tide of hatred currently flooding our country.

Can Parental Alienation Occur Beyond Parents and Kids?

Does alienation exist only in post-divorce families? No. Look for population alienation as well as parental alienation. Both do massive harm.

We Need Changes in How Courts Handle Parental Alienation

Adversarial divorce courts mostly fail miserably in cases of parental alienation. Here's what family courts could do instead to genuinely serve the best interests of children.

What's causing the tension?

For an Instant Relationship Upgrade, Stop Using This Phrase

Babies have needs. Are you a baby? If not, better find alternative words to "need" for expressing preferences.

Teen Suicide Prevention: How To Innoculate Your Kids

Teenage depression can lead to suicide. How can a parent be proactive?

Parental Alienation: It Happens in Intact Families Too

Does a couple have to be divorced for parental alienation to occur?

Forgiveness? "I Forgive You" Makes Me Cringe

A former Miss America was molested for 15 years, from age 3 until she was 18, by her father. Does she forgive him? Should she? What is the nature of forgiveness?

Theory of Mind: A Missing Piece for Narcissistic People?

Narcissism may simply indicate a not-yet-fully-developed capacity that some of us have more than others. Psychologists refer to this capability as "theory of mind."

Parental Alienation and Iran: Similar Pathology?

Recognition of false narratives and projection can help protect you from people who genuinely do want to harm you.

Antidepressants: A Research Update and a Case Example

What experiences do people have if they take antidepressants?

Strong Feelings: Amygdala Reset for Borderline Personality?

How do you feel toward yourself or someone you know whose emotions are stormy and sometimes frightening? Anger and hatred, anxiety, compassion—or all of the above?

Are Smart Phones and Computers Endangering Your Love Life?

Many couples now spend more of their home time with their screens than with each other.

Two Classic Cases of Courts Failing Alienated Parents

The court system can let children, parents, and grandparents down. How can judges, lawyers, and advisory mental health professionals better protect them?

A Quick Fix for Narcissism—and Depression Too

Too much narcissism in your life? Too much depression? Here's an action plan to fix both of these two very different problems, and to end narcissistic-depressive interactions.

Depression In Pregnancy—How To Keep It From Harming the Baby

A new study suggests that depression during pregnancy can harm the baby's brain. Yet pregnant moms are advised not to take antidepressants. Fortunately, here's other options.

The 4 Best Gifts You Can Give to Your Teen

Teens nowadays like to have fashionable clothes, high tech electronics, and sports equipment. But here are the gifts they value more and truly need.

Treatment Resistant Depression: Here's Multiple New Options

For about a third of folks who try antidepressant medications, pills do not alleviate the depression. Here's a good news round-up of alternative theories and treatments.

High School and College Student Anxiety: Why the Epidemic?

Do you know a high school or college student struggling with anxiety? While most teenagers worry from time to time, anxiety that's too frequent and too intense can be dreadful.

What Are the Options for Kids with an Often-Angry Parent?

People who rage generally get diagnosed as having a borderline or a narcissistic personality disorder. Who is responsible for protecting their children?

What Happens When Adults on the Spectrum Sing and Dance?

Can children with autism and other mental and physical handicaps grow into adults who can sing, dance, build friendships and enjoy life? Take a look at this video and find out.

Intrusive Memories: A Research Roundup

A just-released psychological journal article can help you understand why bad memories and images may not leave your mind ... and what can help you to send them away.

Psychotherapy Integration: Bump Theory Explains How to Do It

Bump Theory explains why you feel bad and how to feel better. The theory offers a map for self-help, and also for integrative therapists—those who use many techniques.

Parental Alienation: What Can an Alienated Parent Do?

One challenge with parental alienation is finding professionals informed enough to provide effective help, especially with regard to dealing with the legal system.

Why Do Anxiety and High Blood Pressure Go Hand-In-Hand?

Feeling anxious? Concerned about high blood pressure? Maybe one treatment can ease both, and without medications. Here's over a dozen options.

The Very Best Gift You Can Give

Want to give gifts with impacts that will last year-round?

Parental Alienation Syndrome: What Is It, and Who Does It?

What is parent alienation syndrome? Are you doing it? Are you being victimized by it?

And Now Matt Lauer...Why Celebrities Get Sexually Aggressive

TV's Matt Lauer today joined the club of men in high positions who are being accused of sexual improprieties with women at work. What could he have been thinking? Here's what.

Can a 4-Step Self-Help Therapy Technique End Upset Feelings?

Therapists use this technique to help their clients gain insight and feel better. Can it also relieve upset feelings if you use it as a self-help technique?

Can People With Borderline Personalities Succeed In Life?

What happens in the lives of women and men who have a borderline personality disorder?

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