Resolution, Not Conflict

The guide to problem-solving.

Susan Heitler Ph.D.

Raising Well-Behaved Kids: Mistaken vs. Smart Discipline

Want to raise good kids? Avoid two harmful discipline techniques, and use instead four far more positive options.

Oy, The Holidays: Anticipating An Emotional Rollercoaster?

Use this guide to managing negative feelings if you are expecting that emotional challenges lie ahead.

Severe Parental Alienation: A Mental Health Emergency

Long legal battles prolong and intensify alienation. The longer the courts take to intervene, the worse the alienation is likely to become, and the harder to reverse.

Parental Alienation: What Therapists Need to Know

Parental alienation is a form of child abuse—and recognizing, diagnosing, and treating it can be tricky. Here's how therapists can handle these challenging cases.

Can Mental Imagery Help You Feel Better?

What would your reaction be if your therapist asked you to close your eyes in a treatment session? A recent journal article supports eyes-closed mental imagery therapy techniques.

Not Getting Your Concerns Heard? Try These 5 Tools

Want to become more effective when someone you love, or someone you work with, keeps doing something that bugs you?

Couples Therapy: What 5 Ingredients Create a Great Outcome?

Does your couples therapist provide these essentials? If not, what can you do about it?

Overcoming BPD: 3 Vital Ways Parents Can Help

What can you do if one or more of your children, young or grown, shows the emotional hyper-reactivity and excessive anger that characterize borderline personality disorder?

10 Gifts: Wisdom From an Extraordinary Therapist and Healer

Dale Peterson was a masterful energy therapist. In honor of his death, I am sharing some of his powerful techniques and innovations.

The Creation of Hatred

The phenomenon of parental alienation offers clues to understanding the rising tide of hatred currently flooding our country.

Can Parental Alienation Occur Beyond Parents and Kids?

Does alienation exist only in post-divorce families? No. Look for population alienation as well as parental alienation. Both do massive harm.

We Need Changes in How Courts Handle Parental Alienation

Adversarial divorce courts mostly fail miserably in cases of parental alienation. Here's what family courts could do instead to genuinely serve the best interests of children.

What's causing the tension?

For an Instant Relationship Upgrade, Stop Using This Phrase

Babies have needs. Are you a baby? If not, better find alternative words to "need" for expressing preferences.

Teen Suicide Prevention: How To Innoculate Your Kids

Teenage depression can lead to suicide. How can a parent be proactive?

Parental Alienation: It Happens in Intact Families Too

Does a couple have to be divorced for parental alienation to occur?

Forgiveness? "I Forgive You" Makes Me Cringe

A former Miss America was molested for 15 years, from age 3 until she was 18, by her father. Does she forgive him? Should she? What is the nature of forgiveness?

Theory of Mind: A Missing Piece for Narcissistic People?

Narcissism may simply indicate a not-yet-fully-developed capacity that some of us have more than others. Psychologists refer to this capability as "theory of mind."

Parental Alienation and Iran: Similar Pathology?

Recognition of false narratives and projection can help protect you from people who genuinely do want to harm you.

Antidepressants: A Research Update and a Case Example

What experiences do people have if they take antidepressants?

Strong Feelings: Amygdala Reset for Borderline Personality?

How do you feel toward yourself or someone you know whose emotions are stormy and sometimes frightening? Anger and hatred, anxiety, compassion—or all of the above?

Are Smart Phones and Computers Endangering Your Love Life?

Many couples now spend more of their home time with their screens than with each other.

Two Classic Cases of Courts Failing Alienated Parents

The court system can let children, parents, and grandparents down. How can judges, lawyers, and advisory mental health professionals better protect them?

A Quick Fix for Narcissism—and Depression Too

Too much narcissism in your life? Too much depression? Here's an action plan to fix both of these two very different problems, and to end narcissistic-depressive interactions.

Depression In Pregnancy—How To Keep It From Harming the Baby

A new study suggests that depression during pregnancy can harm the baby's brain. Yet pregnant moms are advised not to take antidepressants. Fortunately, here's other options.

The 4 Best Gifts You Can Give to Your Teen

Teens nowadays like to have fashionable clothes, high tech electronics, and sports equipment. But here are the gifts they value more and truly need.

Treatment Resistant Depression: Here's Multiple New Options

For about a third of folks who try antidepressant medications, pills do not alleviate the depression. Here's a good news round-up of alternative theories and treatments.

High School and College Student Anxiety: Why the Epidemic?

Do you know a high school or college student struggling with anxiety? While most teenagers worry from time to time, anxiety that's too frequent and too intense can be dreadful.

What Are the Options for Kids With an Often-Angry Parent?

People who rage generally get diagnosed as having a borderline or a narcissistic personality disorder. Who is responsible for protecting their children?

What Happens When Adults on the Spectrum Sing and Dance?

Can children with autism and other mental and physical handicaps grow into adults who can sing, dance, build friendships and enjoy life? Take a look at this video and find out.

Intrusive Memories: A Research Roundup

A just-released psychological journal article can help you understand why bad memories and images may not leave your mind ... and what can help you to send them away.

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