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Raising likeable, responsible, respectful children.
David J Bredehoft Ph.D.
Do your children want it now or do they wait for a bigger reward? Is there a connection between childhood overindulgence and delayed gratification?
Gratitude, just like a garden, starts with tilling the soil, planting the seed, watering, fertilizing, and nurturing.
Students who kept gratitude journals exercised more, felt better about life, and were more optimistic about the future. Gratitude is learned.
In one study, children who were not overindulged were better-equipped to delay gratification, less materialistic, had greater feelings of gratitude, and reported feeling happier.
Grateful people act in ways that are beneficial to themselves, other individuals, and society at large. Parents sacrifice so much for their children and want gratitude in return.
One way to evaluate the question is to look at some current statistics through the lens of childhood overindulgence.
The concept of childhood overindulgence is more comprehensive than either the terms of affluenza or spoiling. Use the term “Childhood Overindulgence” instead of “Affluenza".
Most fathers respond to criticism by making a change in their parenting choices and or seeking new advice on the topic of criticism. This is really good news!
Are you teaching your child that "the world is my oyster and mom and dad are my ATM"?
Everyone has questions relating to spirituality, even your children. If you ignore your children’s questions they will assume the topic is off limits or not important.
We need to raise spiritual children who have a sense of peacefulness, curiosity, industry, and awe, as well as a deep sense of empathy with others’ suffering.
Parents can influence a child's spiritual development. Two of the biggest roadblocks are childhood overindulgence and excessive materialism.
Hollywood stars used money, position, power, and influence to get their children accepted to elite universities in place of other more qualified students. Is this overindulgence?
Parents do not want the worst for their child—they want the best. The problem is they often go overboard.
More adult children are moving back home. If your adult child wants to move back in you will need to negotiate a new set of rules for living with each other. Write a contract.
Overindulging children can lead to external rather than internal life goals, resulting in greater risks of unhappiness, anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and intimacy problems.
Raising children to be responsible and respectful is a difficult job in our overindulgent world. Sometimes parents err. Acknowledging and pledging to change can be healing.
A majority of parents think we buy way too many gifts for children. Here are 11 common-sense suggestions for families to help curb this overindulgence.
Having reasonable rules, expecting children to do chores, and setting boundaries are good for children. It's called firm structure.
Overnurture is being overinvolved in your children’s lives. It’s doing too much for them, smothering, entertaining and insulating them from stress and anxiety.
Too much has become the new normal; it is the first type of overindulgence our research identified.
Many parents are worried about overindulging their children, particularly in an age when overindulgence appears to be the new normal.
David Bredehoft, Ph.D., is a professor emeritus and former chair of psychology at Concordia University.