There are ways to temper your toughest critic and take constructive control of your feelings.
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Harriet Lerner Ph.D.
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Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., is the author of many books, including the New York Times bestseller, The Dance of Anger, and Why Won't You Apologize: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts.