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Arnold A. Lazarus Ph.D., Clifford N. Lazarus Ph.D., Donna Astor-Lazarus
There are hundreds of systems of therapy. Yet there is one that can unify them all, and it is based on scientific evidence.
Enraged narcissists can be extremely dangerous. They will do whatever they can to emerge the "winner," and often stop at nothing to get revenge on someone for just a minor slight.
It's true that a picture can be worth a thousand words. And in therapy, a simple metaphor that symbolizes an important idea can be more powerful than straight advice.
Thanks to a few visionary thinkers, the practice of psychological therapy is now firmly anchored in science. But it remains as much an art as it is a science. Here's why.
The notion that opposites attract is true if we're talking about atomic particles and magnets. In the world of intimate relationships, however, similarity is the binding force.
Some researchers maintain that consciousness is a fundamental property of the universe, existing independently and outside of the brain, and continues after death.
Grappling with existential realities can be a source of great distress for many people. Here is how some make peace with a life devoid of higher purpose or predetermined meaning.
Here are the "TERMS" for living your best life—five simple keys that can unlock the door leading to happiness and health.
Will the ultrawealthy soon be able to buy their way out of death?
Instead of just treating "disorders" and pinning diagnostic labels on people, good therapy involves sharing practical life skills and helpful information.
Even highly experienced therapists limit their effectiveness by making these common mistakes. Knowing what they are can help you in your therapy.
Why many people will vigorously defend their beliefs even when faced with compelling proof they are wrong.
Many people confuse healthy self-interest with selfishness. Consequently, out of needless guilt, they often say “yes” when they want to say “no.”
Privacy is generally a good thing. But being too secretive and closed-off from others often leads to a lack of intimacy, self-alienation, and a less fulfilling life.
CBT emphasizing ERP (exposure and response/ritual prevention) is the most effective and scientifically validated treatment for OCD, but not everyone benefits from it. Here’s why.
A lot of parents feel guilty because, despite having unhappy children, they are basically happy themselves. This post discusses why it’s okay to be happier than one’s kids.
Here are a few core aspects of OCD. Understanding them can help you to loosen its grip and free yourself of its terrible clutches.
Everyone is a unique individual who calls for a tailored treatment plan in therapy. Still, many therapists use only one or a few methods even if isn't what's really needed.
Here are psychological errors even smart people make, and ways to correct them for enhanced relationships and self-esteem, and a nimbler mind.
Most people know of the power of positive thinking. But, just as "a picture's worth a thousand words," positive visualization can be much more powerful. Here's a good method.
The prophecy of the event can lead to the event of the prophecy. But it doesn't have to. Here's how to break the cycle of negative, self-fulfilling prophecies.
Here are a few illustrations of what narcissists really think and feel when they say and do things that seem normal.
No one can avoid criticism. But understanding the three basic types of criticism, and how to best respond to each, can help us navigate some of the social labyrinth of life.
Some people are quick to make judgmental pronouncements about others. Here is why they are usually wrong.
Hanging onto grudges and past grievances only contributes to unhappiness and corrodes relationships. Here's how you can defuse these psychological time bombs.
Clinical or major depression is a potentially deadly illness that affects many millions of people at any given time. Here's how to gain a better understanding of it.
It's common for people to use overgeneralizations when criticizing others. Here's why they're almost always untrue and reflect a basic lack of understanding human nature.
Here are a few common, cognitive errors that cause anxiety and what you can do to correct them.
Here are five easy ways to improve your relationship, and four intimacy killers to work on eliminating.
A lot of people place excessive importance on material "success." They use money, things, and achievements as their metrics of choice. Here's why many of them are unhappy.
Arnold A. Lazarus is a professor of psychology, therapist, author, lecturer, and clinical innovator.
Clifford N. Lazarus, Ph.D., is Clinical Director of The Lazarus Institute.
Donna Astor-Lazarus is the Co-Clinical Director of The Lazarus Institute.