What to know about what you don’t know you know. #1: Intuition is very efficient—if you don't overthink it.
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So well said - and a gift to those navigating the parenting struggle of “should I step in in this instance, or build resilience?” You addressed this point in different terms, but I often gently point out in therapy that a parent’s refusal and/or unwillingness to let their children struggle appears to be altruistic, but is often actually based at least somewhat in selfishness. When we decide to rescue because it spares us the discomfort of watching our children learn and master through struggle, we make that choice at least partly to prevent our OWN suffering. It is human and wonderful to have deep empathy for our children and naturally, to want to “fix” their pain. But checking our motives becomes essential when assessing how to best respond to the particular circumstances of the current situation.
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