My mother bad mouthed my father to me all through my childhood, she still does it today. So I did blame him for their divorce and the poverty I lived through with my mother brother and I. It did affect our father son relationship for a looooong time though I have seen the light and reparation of our relationship has been done and is ongoing. Only a few weeks ago The guardian newspaper ran an article by a feminist claiming alienation was a con done by abusive men to their former partners!