Practicing a strategy on your child might be the problem in the first place. A good parent does not need to play mind games in order to foster dialogue. They create the right atmosphere from the get go. Boys will tell you how they feel from the outset if you are emotionally available and not shut down by your own repressed needs. They shut down when they sense you are not trustworthy, usually after many failed attempts to get through. It then becomes a battle of wills which will never undo the damage. He says this attempted dialogue is no substitute for treatment. No surprise really because it is guaranteed not to work. Drugs and counselling won't work either, not in the long term. But this is about selling a certain type of treatment, pushing his own agenda and ideology. It is not about fixing the problem, nor understanding it.