I find myself often wondering if I am a narcissist because I often complain about my daughter (who I feel is possibly a narc) out of sheer frustration. She still lives at home (aged 28) and does not want to follow the "House Rules", i.e.: keep her bedroom / bathroom clean & tidy, do her washing regularly, once a month the four adults in the house do kitchen duty, i.e.: for one week a month we need to keep the kitchen clean and tidy and feed our little dog. If she goes out on a week night, I expect her to to be home by midnight because I worry about safety (our country is a high crime zone) and she works in a pharmacy so needs to be focussed and not hung over. All of these things I would have no control over if she lived in her own place but since she lives at home I expect her to follow these basic rules. She however does not want to be told what to do - so basically living in the comfort of her parents house (paying $50 rental - nothing towards food) and come and go as she pleases. If I complain when she is not following the rules then I am shouted at and told that I am preventing her from finding a husband and getting married and she will end up living at home forever. She makes up stories about childhood experiences that neither myself, my husband nor my son recall - and we are usually in the story. She takes money out of our wallets, helps herself to groceries to take to friends or to work without asking, she has even once put us all in danger when she came home drunk from a night out, left the doors open (of her car and the house) and did not set the house alarm. Luckily, someone drove her home (in her car) otherwise she would have driven home drunk. She is irresponsible and when I try to have a conversation with her about her attitude and behavior it usually ends in a shouting match with her telling me that I am controlling. My husband feels that we should tell her to find a place of her own - tough love - but I know that she cannot afford it right now. It's a catch 22 and because I feel so negatively towards her, I feel narcissist but a part of me says that she is actually the narcissist......