Why wife and I have no empathy for each other. I cannot understand her past 15 year relationship as a mistress to a married man ands cannot understand why it bothers that she has compared me to him and every time she has I come out the loser. She calls her past magical and loving. She said my past during that same time period was a waste of time. Why she was dating one married man I had 11 relationships that ended, but at least they had a chance since none of the women were married. Fortunately we fight about nothing else!!