This is a great article and response by ana. I agree, especially when forgiving is just absolving the perp of their wrong doings and by granting them this "pass", they continue to do what they do. They don't learn anything. I've my own personal experiences..such as my sibling who continues to get a rise just by handing out passive aggressive insults without any reason (The smirk on their face says it all...there's no provocation on anyone's part, I could just be sitting there). When I try to move forward, they just find opportunities again and again.. that's when the deciding factor is enough is enough.