This always a loaded topic because it affects so many of us.
I was abused when I was growing up, I grapple with forgiving the abuse when I became an adult. When I realized my abusers weren't going to change and ask forgiveness I stopped waiting for that moment to come. It was a fantasy, really from a movie...had it all scripted in my head, and oh, of coarse I would forgive. That's not the reality for most people.
To deal with this conflict and not be tied forever with the abuse, I distanced myself from my family and changed my name. For me that worked more than the artificial "forgive to set me free". Distance is better!