Do you have any advice for a son who is now 31 yo....he fits ALL the descriptors first Borderline Personality Disorder. He is verbally abusive to his family and emotionally unstable. He is barely holding onto his job, and is on probation for pulling a gun on someone in an altercation. He refuses any kind of help. It’s everyone else that is the problem. We are not in touch right now after an outburst at Thanksgiving, but I am at a loss on whether to keep this boundary up for my mental care or try to get in touch. It’s just a horrible cycle that has continued for years. It is wearing me down.

Any advice would be appreciated.