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I am an extrovert and my husband is an introvert. We have been together for 19 years, married for 10. It has been a journey - when we meet we were 20 and 21 years old - babies really ;-) And he was more out going... though I think it was because he was young and knew no other way to be... in additional there was lots of drinking, partying and sex so that made it easier to be more social!
As we have gotten older though he is more aware of his needs and we have had to compromise. It has been hard to fine the right balance though.. for a while we focused on his needs and I ended up being lonely all the time because we stayed in too much. At the same time he was worried if I kept up with all our friends without him around he would loose connections and did not want me to see our friends on my own. But we worked that out and now have a good balance.
Unfortunately for us I work from home and get very little human interaction during the day and he works in a large office where people talk to him all the time. When he gets home he needs quiet and I need someone to talk to... so that is an issue!
Once a month we have a weekend with no plans. During the week one person cooks or the other - not together so he can have some down time. I also sleep more than him so he has about an hour and a half after I go to sleep to be by himself.
We are great at asking each other where the other one is... is he feeling overwhelmed and run down.. am I feeling lonely.. who has a need at the time? We try and support each other but when we find we need different things and we go our separate ways for an evening.
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