Severe Communication Disorder, Semantic Pragmatic disorder, PDD-NOS, Educationally Autistic (whatever that means...), ADHD, Aspergers, and finally, I pushed for him to have Dysgraphic and Dyscalculaic, because that is what interferes with schooling, and I'm glad to see his differences accommodated.

You are the most important thing in your child's life. And you are important to us, because you were kind to my son and he remembers you and sees you as kind of a hero. AND, you like cars and trains.

The most important thing isn't what medication or therapy or government program you qualify for. That could all go away tomorrow. It isn't your label, that could change, too. No one, no label can take away who you are. If there are things that could help you or anyone else, they are in the trial stages...and if a parent has a child who has a medically treatable difference, they are lucky to find it.

This world is full of people who are "experts", one might say a glut, for no more helpful than they are to the individuals they are supposed to be helping. It's a world of "pie in the sky" dreams. Who cares what they think?

It all comes down to how we treat each other on a personal level. No label changes that.

When my son first got his label and I lived in fear of tomorrow, my family said, "There's nothing wrong with Ben." Labels are all about removing the humanity. It was the same beautiful child in my presence, only I had come to hate this thing called "autism". That was unfortunate.

If I could do anything to wake people up so that they are not as stupid and heartless as I was, I'd give anything. But I guess we all have to make our own mistakes.

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