"Maybe true for some, but not all." I bet you are correct and you are one who can talk openly about your fantasies. Yes, whether or not the one you're talking with can handle such conversation is an issue! It's not safe to talk with just anyone about our fantasies, but when we can, it can be extremely liberating! It may even open the door for the one you're talking with to do the same! I still find that many men, those who come to me, have difficulty talking about their fantasies with their sexual partners, and that's why they are coming to me for coaching, among other issues. Too many, not all, men struggle to give voice to what they need, let alone to what they desire and yearn for! Silence is how we often were trained around sexual issues, and I'm not sure that this has changed for the upcoming generation. I hope so.