Self-Pity is seen as a weakness that no one should indulge in, but it is an unfair understanding what people go through. There is a natural grieving process for people who are limited by illness. While they might be able to capitalize on strengths to achieve despite an illness, this is not always possible. One needs tremendous support, good enough health, and finances to manage despite an illness. Some people are overwhelmed with debt, declining health, other responsibilities, no medical coverage, or just surviving. Good God, many chronically ill end up homeless without the support of family. They might not be able to write a novel or even get educated. As one adapts and adjusts, their situation may worsen - leading to new struggles and new grieving. Some people are lost and we need to boost them up, not admonish them for pitying themselves.