Lupus Lady has described my struggles perfectly! When she wrote "As one adapts and adjusts, their situation may worsen - leading to new struggles and new grieving." I thought "YES!!! Someone else understands!" I feel stuck in a perpetual grieving process precisely for that reason. The only thing that has helped me recently is my decision to no longer say "Things can't get any worse" and "I can't handle this anymore", because things DO keep getting worse, but I'm still here so obviously I CAN handle it. But it's a process and one I've been immersed in for almost 7 years. Remaining lost in self-pity long-term won't help anyone - it certainly hasn't helped me. However, to deny people their right to grieve is insensitive and can have catastrophic effects.