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Smiling here. It doesn't help to "explain" anything but I appreciate your perspective. Thank goodness for broad generalizations! There is such thing as confidence in one's abilities and realistic self-perception, understanding of one's own aptitudes and limitations. That considered, I find it easier to assess an undertaking with a balance of optimism and awareness of the "WPS" (worst possible scenario) which serves as a guide and never seems prohibitive. Then, too, motivation and fortitude are, in my opinion, different from "optimism". For example, we often have to begin new projects which we find difficult or downright abhorrent. A person can manage to execute a project from start to finish and have a good result with a so-called "bad attitude" and a lack of affinity for the work, despite what the Dalai Lama might have to say ;-) The trend to "push positivity" as an essential for living well and working effectively is beginning to crumble. There is no denying that great work can ultimately come during or as a result of states of great misery- oh no! Another dilemma; the perpetuation of 'artist as martyr' myth! Our culture has two dichotomous operatives, neither of which are healthy or realistic models for happiness and fulfillment. We are either pretend everything is okay, try, try again, and you will eventually succeed (despite all evidence to the contrary) or run yourself ragged on the tread-mill of "success" in a state of chronic stress and suffering, and you will beat out the competition or reach your goal. I see nothing detrimental about enthusiasm, balanced with realistic expectations or a sense of openness to an outcome; flexibility. The western world could certainly use a book debunking the myth of "positive thinking" as it is currently presented. There is no such thing as "you can do anything you put your mind to"! I really enjoyed this article and thank you for clarifying.
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