ok so your post is filled with labels, maybe you should read the article again. The more you dismiss someone and give them dismissive labels, the worse the situation will get. Like the article said, it is you the label giver that has the issue with the emotions from the other person that you are labeling. Maybe if you tried a different strategy and actually validated that persons emotion, however unpleasant it may be for you, because after all it's not about you, but about the other person. Everybody needs to be validated. If you validate a person straight away they won't feel the need to try and find any means possible to obtain validation from you.