I know I test into the extrovert category, but I identify with the introverts. I hate parties, but love one-on-one conversations. I get drained by small talk, but adore deep and intense conversations. I have no problem talking to strangers, but generally do not find many I actually want to engage with. If given a choice between spending time with people and spending time alone, the alone time usually wins and I like to pursue my interests alone too. I think my solo time actually helps me deal with people on a regular basis.

I always had a bit of a problem with the idea of extroversion versus introversion, because I think many place shyness under introversion when that is not always the case. For example, my favorite uncle is painfully shy with strangers, but among close friends and family will never shut up and detests spending time alone. Also, I know many boring and boorish extroverts. They are far from being "charismatic." Part of being "charismatic" is knowing how to listen and being aware of social cues, which many extroverts miss by being so "gregarious."

Finally, I find many artists straddle the line between introversion and extroversion. T.S. Eliot, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Raphael, and Pablo Picasso would probably be classified as extroverts, but their artistic passions and pursuits were more aligned with introversion and demanded a lot of alone time.

I'm glad that this article finally addresses something I believe many of us have experienced.

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