My lovely daughter is seventeen now. I am a stay at home mum. I know that is a privilege and I am truly greatful for that. When she was small I allowed her to choose after school activities, she only did what she wanted to do, choir and cookery some netball and sailing. She skis but no longer wants to go into ski school. Homework was compulsory. She has loved every minute of it and it was a joy to collect her and her friends from school and hear raucous laughter in the back of my car. My husband feels she should have done more and should have been more competitive like him. He forced her to do tennis which she recently confessed to me she hated but did it to keep the peace. I just want her to be happy and to feel she is in control of her life. She makes her own choices I guide her when she needs or asks for it. We spend hours talking and time wasting together which I think is priceless!