This article really provides a missing voice to the ongoing debate on marriage and divorce, and what to do about them. Reading some of the PT blogs and articles made me think that -- "if I just had tried harder, thought deeper, been more patient, stayed/tried longer/better/harder ... it would have worked out ... whatever "working out" is.

But, after many years, and a lot of counselling and self examination and analysis ... sometimes people come to the conclusion ... that all their attempts are not making their marriage/relationship better ... it is just getting worse ...

I believe that mainstream recognition of the possibility that maybe, just maybe, your marriage/relationship did not fail because you did not follow the "magic recipe" out of the correct "cook-book" or timely take the "magic actions" that can "save" your marriage/relationship provides some needed validation for we people who reluctantly divorced because there were no better options, the "collateral damage" to children got out of control and the marriage and the damage was getting worse, not better.