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I have been doing a lot of reading online about voluntary and involuntary virginity at 18 years old and beyond. It seems as though if you are 25 years old or older than you are considered an "anomaly" and people think there is something psychologically wrong with you: personality disorder, disabled, fat, weird, etc. There are so many horrible things said about virgins online. As track and field star Lolo Jones stated, it is harder to date when you are an older virgin because no one wants to "deal" with you. Dating = sex and if you are not having it and/or have not experienced it, you are damaged goods regardless of gender. So, it's hard in 2012 to be a virgin male or female in your twenties and older. In the past, being a virgin was acceptable but since the sexual revolution in the 70s, being a virgin is disgusting and promiscuity is encouraged.
As for myself, I'm 25 and on my list of priorities, sex, dating, and relationships are not in my life and it's not important to me as it is for so many other people. I focus on earning degrees (masters currently) and working my butt off to help my parents who are both disabled and aging. I have friends, I love my social life (little time I have because I help my mother being a part-time caregiver), I love fashion, etc. and I don't regret being a virgin. Besides, if you see the men in my life...you would be one too!
More importantly, people treat virginity like it is a horrible disease! No one wants to be bothered with a virgin so it's hard to find a sexual partner. It's a catch 22: if you don't have sex after 24 then no one wants to date you...then it prolongs you status...
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