Teresa:

Yes, I agree with what you've said here ( my post is the one dated 1-3-14 ) and not long after I wrote my "story", I was talking to several women ( at different times ) online about me being a virgin and yeah, their first response was "what is wrong with you?" like there is something "wrong" with me. They all seemed stunned that I'm now 44 and still a virgin. I have to shy away from questions or comments from people like co-workers, friends, etc discussing their sex lives because then they want to ask about mine.

Its like if I am honest and up-front with a woman about me still being a virgin, she wants nothing to do with me, but if I were to lie and tell her I've had this long sex life, and I have sex with her eventually, she's going to figure it out, so yes, its a catch-22 in many ways when you're stuck in something you wish you could get out of....