Here in realityville we know that relapsing is expected. My city has 60,000 heroin addicts, nobody is surprised when somebody uses again after a stint in rehab, we deal with it and find it quite normal. I consider it part of the process to sobriety. Another reason people die after declaring their sobriety is that the body is so worn down from all the drugs and alcohol it can't fight off disease like a healthy body, we get a lot of that here too. One of my friends who is a recovering heroin addict stopped by my house last night, he's been to 6 funerals in 2 months. (on another note, that particular friend relapsed several times before he cleaned up completely 3 years ago).

It is what it is.