Dear Mansi - I appreciate your frustration at the horrible "choices" addicts make. But solid scientific research shows us that heredity, brain chemistry, and childhood trauma often take the power of choice away.

The relationship between substance abuse and behavioral addiction -- love, sex, spending, gambling -- is a fascinating new area of study. I invite you to participate in the discussion at the Facebook page http://www.facebook.com/?ref=home#!/pages/Love-Addict-Sex-Romance-and-Other-Dangerous-Drugs/118903244863299

An alcoholic can't be a moderate drinker, but a love addict has to find a way to be a moderate, or at least balanced, lover. It is no simple task.